Key concepts

By Tyler Durden

Apart from the mindsets stated above, there are certain key concepts that I revolve my game around. Without further ado, they are:

Assuming Attraction
Value
Identity
Qualifying
Frames

Ok, so let’s break each concept down.

Assuming Attraction
A lot of guys go in to set with the intention to impress the girls, show them that he’s cool and hopefully they’ll get attracted to him. What I do instead is that I assume the girl is already attracted to me (before I’ve even opened her). Why wouldn’t she be? I’m awesome. But here’s the important part; just because I consider myself awesome doesn’t mean I should be an asshole (in other words try to put the frame that I’m high value and she is low value and try to put her down) or that I’m socially uncalibrated or insecure (by trying to constantly prove that I’m awesome). So one might think it’s a fine line to walk between being confident and an asshole… but it’s really not. Once you have your inner game down and a decent social understanding, you understand that it’s not attractive behavior to put other people down (and you’ll have no need to) and you will have the “aura of awesomeness” glowing all around you if you are confident in your own value and attractiveness.

This sort of thinking has reduced my approach anxiety ten folds too. I’m very confident in my own abilities and value, and I know that I’ll act even more attractive if I believe that she is already attracted to me… so that’s what I’ll do. And how hard is it to approach a girl you already know is attracted to you? On a similar note, that’s the reason why it’s so hard to get rid of a girl that’s really attracted to you… because as soon as you know that she is attracted to you, you unconsciously start to act in a way that’s even more attractive. Have you ever had that? There this one girl that keeps stalking you, and the more you push her away the more interested she becomes, because you are acting even more and more interesting to her. Well it’s kind of the same mentality that goes on here too. It might sound a bit self-righteous to walk around and (probably falsely) believe that everyone is attracted to you, but the thing is that a belief doesn’t have to be true to be helpful (something Sinn taught me a long time ago). You’ll be amazed at the different reactions you get once you start implementing this attitude.

Value
This might be the most important concept that I use. I previously mentioned that I don’t like the idea that we should have the mindset that we are of lower value than the girl (in fact, I HATE that mindset and think its utter bullshit).
What you believe your own value is what’s going to make or break your game. I always believe that I’m at the top level of the value chain in any given room. This might or might not be true; it doesn’t matter. What is value anyways? Who’s got the most money? The most social proof? Or is it just, and wouldn’t that be awesome, what the person himself consider his or her value to be?
Once you start thinking of yourself as high value, a lot of good things will come to you. However it could also turn you into that self-loving prick that everyone hates. It really is a fine line, but I’ll tell you the secret to what it all comes down to… it’s GIVING value instead of TAKING it. If you like yourself but at the same time provide value for others, then that’s when your game is going to explode.

Another thing that can be a really high value behavior, but easily reach a tipping point and become a low value behavior, is teasing. Confident people tease and are not afraid to tease, but they also know when to draw the line, stop teasing and switch it up by giving compliments. The best guys I know have an uncanny ability to give perfect compliments; the ones that make you feel really good.
So the concept of value is one of the centerpieces in my game. I tease a lot, but I also give girls compliments on the things I think they deserve. I always consider myself to have a lot of value, and I’m not afraid to bring that value to others.

Identity
This could easily be a post in of itself, but I just want to address the most important parts of having a strong identity. It’s no secret that a lot of my game is identity driven, and the reason for that is because it allows the girl to (what I like to call) “sexy stereotype” me. In other words, by having a rockstar identity, I get a lot of things for free (such as pre-selection, social proof etc). She’s going to assume I have those things, since they are a part of the rockstar identity.But not only that, it also allows me to do what I like to call “anchoring my attraction”. So what I do is that instead of running a bunch of routines that has nothing to do with me and my life, I tell her stories and anecdotes that are based from my identity and thus the attraction she feels for me is tied to my identity. This makes me so much more attractive, not only do I display attractive personal qualities (confidence, taking what I want, passion etc) but I can also back it up with an awesome lifestyle.

Qualification
Something I do a lot is that I convey a lot of “identity value” and then right afterwards I qualify based on the identity value. So for example, I’ll tell them stories about how I feel right before I go on stage (emotional spikes), how I love performing (DHVs) and touring, how I’m fortunate that I can pursue my dreams and ambitions and then I qualify if she’s pursuing her dreams. A qualifying question has an immensely bigger chance of succeeding if you go for it right after you yourself have displayed a lot of value. So whenever I’ve conveyed a lot of value I always switch to a qualifying frame. In fact, I switch to a qualifying frame as soon as I can get away with it. Why? It shows dominance and value, two things that are (almost) always beneficial. Try it and see what it can do for your game.

Frames
If you understand the concept of frames (and know how to set them) you are very close to “seeing the matrix”. What I like to do is to set disqualification, value and same night lay frames. I set disqualification frames in a number of ways; I use my body to show slight disinterest at the appropriate times (hard to describe in text, but basically communicates that “I’m calling the shots, I’m the one dominating this interaction” even though this isn’t a conscious thought process from my side), and I use words to do so too (to build sexual tension and attraction). I set value frames mainly from my inner game and the way I carry myself, and I set same night lay frames by qualifying the girls for certain things (like being non-judgemental, decisive and discrete). If have been in the game for a while now and want to take it to the next level, study the use of frames as this is the key to becoming really good.

This is probably the longest post I've ever written and still it only scratches the surface of my game, but as I mentioned earlier, implement some of the ideas in this post in your own game and see what works for you.